We are all here to serve a purpose… to live with intention. We have unique gifts, given to each one of us alone. They are God’s gifts to us. What we do with those gifts, is our gift to God.
We were not meant to live a life of struggle nor to be subjected to a JOB of misery for the rest of our lives. Our lives were made for abundance. Using our gifts to seek it out, is our God given work that not many take the time to explore.
Ever since I was as a kid, I dreamed of living a life of freedom while traveling, exploring all parts of the world, and as the years went by, it turned into my desire to create a life I love, doing what I love which meant making a difference in the world around me. I knew I was capable, I just didn’t know how I was going to make it happen but I knew I had to find out…
I knew I was meant for more; so, I made it my mission to figure out.
And, this is how it all began…
Around the age of 6, I remember sitting at the doctor’s office and going through the pile of magazines they usually have sitting there for you to read while you wait. There were two magazines that intrigued me the most.
One was the Highlights for Children (this one kept my mind occupied with brain teasers and activities) and the other was Club Med (the fun tropical getaways magazine!)
I was fascinated by the islands, the tropical escapes, the lavish resorts, the travel and excursions. While at this age, it could have been the bright colors that stood out; like the clear blue waters and lagoons or the fun pools but it went further than that….
My thoughts were, I want to live like that one dayand I want my life to look like that when I grow up. I didn’t know how I was going to make it happen but I knew one day I would find a way!
What I Did
Over the years, I explored what people do for a living to have such a luxurious lifestyle like that. I was always fascinated by their responses and gathered my own ideas.
And, when I learned what an entrepreneuris, I knew that one day that would be ME.
What I didn’t realize at the time is that I have always been an entrepreneur. The entrepreneurial spirit has always lived inside me. I was born with a mind of my own and born to do my own thing. We all are. It’s just a matter of finding what it is that we are great at and doing it amazingly well.
And, so, I embarked on a journey that would forever change my life…
I began reading entrepreneurial books and educating myself on potential business opportunities. God knows I have tried a ton over the years! It didn’t take me long to realize that someday I would have my own business.
In the meantime, I knew that if I was going to get anywhere, I had to start making money, so…
At the age of 8, I started out with my very first lemonade stand.
At the age of 10, I signed up to distribute the local newspaper which I did on foot all over town.
At the age of 12, I started babysitting.
I also added in some side hustles like snow shoveling and leaf cleanup in the fall when we lived in New Jersey. I tried anything I could think of and didn’t think twice!
I proceeded to explore every opportunity I came across over the years. I got sucked in by all kinds of shady opportunities. I believed anything that painted the lifestyle I dreamed of living and wasted all kinds of money. I tried all kinds of MLM companies such as Amway, Kirby, Southern Living, and some which are no longer in business.
Not only did I try to jump on board companies that would allow me the freedom to work for myself… I decided to use my creativity to create something of my own.
At 15, I did a lot of writing with the idea of potentially becoming a composer. I even had a writing piece published in a book which I sadly lost when I let someone borrow it for inspiration.
At 19, I attempted to create my own desktop publishing company.
The list goes on and on… I attempted so many different ventures to the point that no one believed I could do anything and stick with it. They were right. I allowed them be right.
Instead of me sticking to something and seeing it through to the end, I would quit when the going got tough and start something new, always trying to find an easywayoutor a short cutso that I could “get rich quick”.
When I saw things weren’t working the way I had hoped they would, I stopped and decided to just commit myself to working for an employer. One that would allow me to grow within. I thought, I could at least grow through promotions and make money that way.
After all, I had myself and my daughter to support and provide for, so taking chances that required more time than I was willing give, became a no-go.
Fast forward to 2006-07, when I found myself unemployed, I attempted to start my very own business staging homes for sale by owner so that they can sell their homes without having to involve a realtor. This would put more money in the pocket of the seller.
I was great at this but didn’t push myself to my full potential to make it work. Again, I gave up too quickly. Something most tend to do when results don’t show up quick enough.
What I learned is this… Mindset is HUGE and so is your why.
I came to the realization that it wasn’t that I couldn’t, it was that I chose not to do it.
Why? Because I was too busy looking for a short cut and focusing on a “quick fix” to my problems that I was overlooking the solution.
I had the very small mindset of how can I make money versus how can I serve.
I was looking to get rich quick, falling for all those “get rich quick” schemes that when things didn’t work out fast enough, I would quit and start over with something else convinced that the new thing would yield the artificial results I was after.
I realized later that when we focus on the problems we have, we act irrationally and do things that result from a lack mindset, only to generate disappointment and more lack.
I know this because I experienced it.
I struggled to support myself and my daughter and was always broke. I allowed that stress to control me and push me to do things that only created more struggle and stress; never being able to push through.
All I kept thinking was, ‘God, please help me stay afloat.’ I couldn’t breathe and felt like I was always drowning. Trying to stay above water was a great challenge.
What I didn’t know was, that instead of creating abundance, I was creating even more lack in our lives.
Two of the Most Important Lessons Learned
- Mindset is everything – I learned that what you allow to go in and out of your mind will either make you or it will break you. The mind is where it all begins. That is where the initial work must develop from.
- You must know your WHY –Knowing your WHY is so important and critical to your success in anything you desire to do or achieve. Your “why” is what keeps you going when times get tough and challenges build up. It helps you to push through and keep on moving. It keeps your eyes on the outcome and not the process.
After years of self-work and self-discovery and with these two lessons learned, I have come to realize that it is no longer about how much money I can make but more so, how can I serve. It’s about what I can do to make a difference and impact someone else’s life trusting that everything I need to keep moving will continue to show up.
And, it does.
You see, it all starts with a simple decision. The simple decision to be more than what you are allowing and allow ourselves to evolve into what we are truly meant to be while impacting the lives of others. And, along with that decision, we must change our story.
For me, it was working for a company who pushed me to my breaking point.
I got tired of being overworked, not appreciated for my hard work, being underpaid, taken advantage of and facing gender discrimination. The little voice inside me kept reminding me that I was made for more, I was capable of doing more and I deserved more. I thought to myself, surely, working for someone while helping them build their dreams is not what my life was meant to look like.
So, I decided, enough is enough and you can too.
Today, in 2019, my life’s purpose and passion is to help you change your story, break through fear, get unstuck, maximize your full potential, step into your power and develop resilience so that you too can become empowered to create a life YOU truly love and deserve.
If you’d like to learn more how I can help you take your life to the next level personally or professionally one goal at a time from wherever you are right now, I would love to chat with you!