Someone said to me the other day in a Facebook post that I am too skinny and need to gain weight. It’s not the first time that has happened.
Some people might take offense to that and let it simmer in their mind leading to negative self-conscious thoughts but for me, it doesn’t offend me in the least.
For one, I know I am not skinny. I consider myself healthy and fit; but it’s usually those who are overweight or need to lose weight that tend to make ignorant comments like that.
I will say that my first instinctual reaction is to turn around and say, “You’re too fat and you need to lose weight.” How do you think that would blow over?
It’s funny how people think that telling someone their skinny and need to gain weight is OK but if someone turned right back around and called that person fat telling them to lose weight, it would be a huge offense and that person would look like an a’hole.
My point with all this is not to bring attention to such ignorant remarks but more so to inspire you to always choose the high road and see yourself for who YOU truly are and not for what others think or say you are.
Know that when people speak, they speak out of their own self-lack or self-consciousness. It makes them feel better to find something wrong in someone else other than themselves, usually subconsciously.
So, how do you overcome ignorant or hurtful things people say?
Through self-love. When you learn to love yourself unconditionally you go through life with ease letting nothing or no one break you down. Not even words or opinions. You become worthy and deserving of all great things and most importantly, self-care becomes your center.
You begin to live a healthier life, you learn to prioritize YOU, and people pleasing while neglecting yourself becomes a thing of the past; ultimately, aligning with the best version of yourself that already exists.
Remember, that you are no good to anyone else, unless you are good to yourself first.