“All that we are is a result of what we have thought.” – Buddha
For years, I was living a life of confusion, without direction, and wandering through life aimlessly, while conforming to the outside world. Although I appeared to be happy, strong, and confident on the outside, I was sad, lonely, and disconnected on the inside.
I wanted to be loved so bad that I subjected myself to being what I thought would make other’s like me or want to be around me. The sad part is, that I would change for different people. I shifted, molded, and altered myself depending on the situation I was in and who I was around. It wasn’t something I was consciously doing; it was just happening because I allowed it.
I would stop at nothing for attention, even if it meant compromising my morals or my true self. Nah, those things were not important because I was more concerned with what other’s thought of me than what I thought of myself. I was a HUGE people pleaser, never mind my needs.
The struggle was real. My life was headed on a downward spiral.
Something had to change or I was going to continue making poor choices, mistakes that I’d regret, living a lie, compromising my health, or worst of all, hurting the best thing that has ever happened to me, my life and my EVERYTHING, my precious little girl, now, a fine young lady.
I share this with you because I know there are many out there going through what I went through…
afraid of being judged or what others might think,
afraid of losing friends,
afraid of failing,
afraid of never finding love,
longing so bad to be loved,
and the list goes on.
What happened to make me change?
I stumbled across what I have come to grow so fond of and that is, the Law of Attraction which I explored through The Secret. Little did I know; it would change my life forever.
From that point on, I became more in tune with my thoughts and my actions. I began to see things more clearly, leading me to the realization that my life was spiraling out of control… financially, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. My life has never been the same since…
What did I do to make it happen?
I decided to commit to working on myself daily and made it a daily practice to change my thoughts and my behaviors. I committed to staying focused and creating positive change all around me. I now knew that there was no way I could have anything good in my life, including positive relationships of any kind, unless I cleaned up my own life first. I realized that I needed to become whole within me, before I could be any good to anyone else around me. And that is what I did.
As I progressed, I finally stopped living for everyone else and began living for ME. That my friend, is when the game changed.
I began to love myself in an unconditional way,
I began to appreciate ME before any other,
I began to prioritize ME above all,
and my health, my life and my daughter became front and center.
Yes, I lost friends and yes, I was judged and still am but the difference is, I used to care and now I don’t. I know it sounds harsh but the truth is, not everyone is your friend so really, it doesn’t matter. What matters is YOU, where you are and where you’re headed.[bctt tweet=”Live for you and what makes YOU happy. The rest will fill in around it. #LawOfAttraction #Inspiration” username=”RawandAlive”]
People are always going to judge you no matter what and friends are going to come and go. It’s those that lift you up, inspire you, motivate you, support you, and stick around no matter what, that are worth hanging on to.
The key to living a true healthy, inspired, empowered, and fulfilled life, is to live for YOU, love yourself unconditionally, be humble, and most importantly forgive; not only others, but yourself. Know that change is possible no matter how hard it may seem. It’s up to you to make it happen.
So, what can you do?
All you have to do is move on from your past, shift your focus on to what you can do better, commit to positive change and creating healthier habits, and take daily consistent action toward them. In turn, you will allow everything else to perfectly fall into place.
So, tell me, does this message resonate with you? Let me know in the comments below. I’d love to hear from you.
Until the next one!
Peace, self-love, and positive change,