Nurturing your mental health is essential for your overall well-being — mind, body and spirit. If we don’t take care or keep our emotional state healthy, it will deteriorate, over time.
We hear a lot about what you can do as a family or as a couple in quarantine, but not much about those who are in isolation by themselves.
Being single myself, I wanted to touch on this because I feel this is a critical time for many who don’t have families living with them, a partner or a roomate.
We are living in a time where our state of mental health is being challenged. Especially if you are single and home alone.
So, what do you do to make the most of your time and steer away from falling into depression? Keep reading…
Our world right now has become a place where wearing masks, wearing gloves and practicing social distancing has become the norm. These daily practices are conditioning us to automatically react this way and have become a part of our everyday life.
We are learning new behaviors and conditioning ourselves to stay away from people while adding these new behaviors to our repertoire of automatic processes. In a nutshell, we are conditioning ourselves to become anti-social without even realizing it.
So when we’re finally able to get back into the world, if we’re not careful with how we spend our time in our space and in our minds, this could have a major impact on our lives in more ways than one.
Which means that if we don’t start taking actionable steps toward preparing ourselves to enter the world again, we are going to find ourselves naturally ‘staying away from people’ and automatically applying this new set of learned behaviors to our everyday life..
We are being conditioned to act in a way we aren’t used to while creating new habits that are out of our control — IN isolation…
… which puts us at risk of a mental health breakdown that can potentially result from increased anxiety and depression.
This goes to show that behavior IS learned… and how easy it is to shift and adapt to new behavioral patterns. So what can you start doing to prevent this from happening?
Have a massive self-care party with yourself!
1) Getting your mind right and out of isolation mode. Think of what you want your life to look like when you go back into the world again. Will you become a better version of YOU? Will you go back to the same ole’ same ole’? Will you live more compassionately, be kinder and love more?
NOW is the time to step back and look at where you can do better and allow yourself to become that and align with your best self… so that you can come out of this feeling stronger and empowered to take on the world!
2) Nourishing your body. Instead of falling into emotional distress with food which weakens your immune system, and eating out of control because you think you’re bored and have nothing else to do, practice shifting into a healthier relationship with food versus an emotional one.
Get creative and play around with ingredients you have. Use the recipes on my channel or on my blog as a guide or pick up some other raw vegan or vegan, plant-based recipes online or on YouTube. There are plenty to experiment with.
Have fun with it!
3) Create a Vision Board. Cut out inspirational pictures and quotes from magazines and glue them to a poster board or piece of cardboard if that’s all you have.
If you don’t have supplies for a vision board you can simply jot down intentions and inspirational quotes on post-its as it relates to where you want to be or what you want your life to look like when this is all over. Then, post them up on your fridge or a wall where you can see them daily. If you don’t have post-its, cut out square pieces from loose leaf paper and tape them up to your fridge. Get creative… This is a perfect time to let your creative juices flow!
4) Journal. Grab a notebook and start making a list of all the things you are grateful for and write down the things that you love and make you feel good inside. Focus on those things and go back and re-read them as often as you need to.
This will help you stay in a good space which is essential for your mental health and remaining in a healthy state of mind.
5) Meditate. I know this is a tough one for most, even myself at times but meditating is such a great way to declutter your mind and shift your focus and energy.
This could be in the form of prayer, breathwork, or whatever form feels good to you which allows you to be still. It’s simply quiet time with yourself while sitting in stillness, acknowledging thoughts that may pop in but quickly releasing them and bringing yourself back to a blank slate. Nothing but your breath to focus on and the peace and quiet that surrounds you.
6) Read a Self-help book or listen to an audiobook. You can find a ton of great books and audiobooks on Amazon or Audible. YouTube also has some free audiobooks to listen to. Just pick a book and do a search to see what you find.
7) Create a personal meditation space. A space in your home that makes you feel good. This will be a space you gravitate to, hang out in or meditate in — your very own personal space — one that inspires you, fuels your creativity and makes you feel at ease.
It could be indoors or out. Maybe on your balcony, patio, backyard or wherever you’d like. The idea is to create a peaceful and relaxing setting to go to when you are feeling tense, anxious or distressed.
For me, lighting (specifically with candles), music and essential oils, set the tone for me. Also, decorations such as inspirational plaques or plants help raise the vibration in my space. There is no right or wrong, only what feels good to YOU.
Remember, this is YOUR space only… so set it up in a way that feels good to you and make it your own. Have fun with it!
8) Explore Ideas and Interests. If there is something you have always wanted to do but have never made the time for, NOW is the time. You have plenty of it.
Take advantage of this time to explore ideas and interests that have been sitting in the back of your mind and see where it takes you. I promise you that as you explore and follow through, the next step will show up.
You don’t have to have all the answers, just know that taking the first step will lead to the next and then the next one after that. All you have to do is start.
Remember, your dreams aren’t going to come find you, they are simply waiting on you to connect with them and bring them to fruition. I know you have them… We all do. It’s just a matter of you prioritizing and getting to work on them.
So, how important are they? Are you willing to give up TV and social media time to start working on them? Bottom line, are you willing to do whatever it takes to make them happen?
Only you have those answers…
Now, is the time to build the momentum to keep yourself going. Don’t let it go to waste.
9) Go for a walk in nature. This is something you may already be doing and you’re probably saying, “More walking? I’m all walked out!” And, trust me, I can totally understand but if you look at walking from a different perspective, the idea of walking may actually turn into something you look forward to.
Especially when you are tuned in to nature… The blooming flowers and trees, the sound of nature singing and the sun shining on your face. Express gratitude on your walk and feel it.
Be grateful for everything and anything you have the ability to see, hear, smell and feel in nature as created by God. These are some of his most treasured gifts to us.
There is so much abundance that surrounds us and there is always something to be grateful for, it’s just a matter of where you choose to put your attention.
Where attention and focus goes, energy flows.
Attention leads to focus. Focus leads to increased energy. Energy leads to “feeling” and THAT my friend, is where it’s all at — the feel-good feels.
Because when you feel good, you are happy and when you are happy, you attract more happiness.
So the goal is to stay in that good feeling and happy state as often as you can which is why being in a space that puts you in a good feeling state is where your focus should be.
10) Get your body moving. Exercise is without a doubt a natural healing medicine, perfect for boosting those endorphins and getting the blood flowing throughout your body. You can exercise in your home, in your backyard, on your patio or on your balcony. Find anywhere you are comfortable and get that body moving.
Unlike milk, exercise does your mind AND body good!
11) Call or FaceTime a friend. Have a friend who has a way of lifting your spirits up. Someone you can count on to make you laugh or put a smile on your face?
Give them a call or facetime with them but be sure it’s someone who exudes positive energy and not negative Nelly. That’s the last thing you need.
Remember, where your attention goes, energy flows and what you attract. So, give your attention only to what makes you feel good and inspires you to be your best self.
You see, you are already an amazing being… You just have to work on aligning with that amazingness!
12) Jam out to empowering songs and sing and dance to them! Even if you don’t know how to sing or dance… Do it! It will fuel and stimulate your endorphins and reduce cortisol levels which is exactly what you need to keep from feeling down.
Some of the songs I’m loving right now are…
“The Fight Song” by Rachel Platten, “Try Everything” by Shakira, “Baby Girl” by Sugarland, “Better When I’m Dancing” by Meghan Trainor and “Broken and Beautiful” by Kelly Clarkson.
They get me breaking out all kinds of dance moves and singing like it’s nobody’s business! This girl can’t sing but I like to think I can!
So… it’s not about what’s happening, it’s about what you are doing to thrive and rise above what’s happening.
Dr. Dyer once quoted,
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
If you look at this situation through a negative lens, you will create a negative space that will negatively affect your well-being.
And, right now, your well-being right needs attention, care and love if you want to come out of this better, stronger and more empowered than before.
So, focus on feeling the feels my friend… FEELING is what it’s all about!
The way I see it, is… this is a blessing in disguise — a time of awakening and transformation. Which is something much needed in the world today.
We have the opportunity to shift into kinder, more compassionate beings and set an example for those around us. Use this time wisely and shift your focus on to all the greatness this opportunity for downtime brings.
You’ll be amazed at what you discover — in yourself and for yourself.