We all have a story. Everyone’s story is unique and different but regardless of how different, it is our individual story and it has meaning. If you are anything like me, you have endured unexpected life altering changes, hit road blocks, fallen hundreds times, found yourself spinning your wheels at a crossroads more than just once or twice, and have reached a point where you are left wondering, “Where the hell is my life going?!” or “What in the world do I do now?!” Even when you have worked so hard towards reaching your goals only to find yourself back at the bottom left to figure out what your next move might be. Wow… Just when you thought you had it right.
Well I will tell you my story… The day my life was turned upside down and changed completely.
I was 17 and had just graduated high school when I learned I was pregnant. It was the beginning of the end I thought then. My life was turned upside down and all around. My life was no longer about me. It was about the new life growing inside of me, my daughter to be. A child myself, I had no idea what I was going to do, what direction to take, or where to even begin. At the young age of 18, I was just learning how to live myself. All I knew is that I had to do whatever it took to make a good life for her. From that point on, it was growing pains but together we grew and continued to move forward.
I had been in and out of college, had my share of let downs, obstacles, dead end jobs, failed attempts at getting ahead, and then some. No matter how hard I worked or how hard I tried, I always found myself back at the bottom and starting all over again. Never in a million years did I think I would be where I am today and thriving more than ever.
Once my daughter graduated high school and went off to college, I buckled down and went back to school to finish my degree in Psychology. Together we got through school and graduated on the same day and year. It was history in the making and a proud moment for us both! She graduated from the University of North Carolina at Wilmington while I graduated from the University of North Carolina at Charlotte.
Although sadly, we missed each other’s graduation, we were an inspiration to each other and celebrated our success there after. It was a dream come true for me. At least one of them.
Things didn’t end there. Life continued to throw challenges my way and I, well, continued to roll with the punches.
Having worked at The Home Depot out of high school, my first full time job, for about 8 years, I didn’t think I would be able to land a job doing anything else. That didn’t stop me. I pursued a job totally out of my realm of work and landed an amazing job as an office manager working for a non-profit behavioral health organization licensing foster families and their homes for placement of children with mental health challenges.
About 3 months into the job, I wanted more. I longed for more interaction with the families and the children. I wanted to feel like I was making a difference. Not only in ensuring quality licensed homes and families for these children but in being able to take part in their behavioral treatment programs. Luckily, I worked alongside not only someone I called my boss but someone who I considered my mentor, who strongly believed in me, trusted me greatly and molded me into a successful behavior specialist. I cannot tell you how blessed I was to have been given the opportunity to help these children make positive changes and progress successfully in their treatment plans and in their lives.
I thought, this is my calling. It all just came so natural to me and I was just that good at it. How could there be anything else for me to do? Well there was… Stay tuned!
After college graduation, I attempted to pursue a career in mental health. After all, I did think this was my calling! I applied for the mental health counseling graduate program at UNCC with the excitement of becoming a mental health counselor but was rejected (first sign this was not meant to be). That did not stop me so I went back to work for my old boss from the non-profit behavioral health organization I worked for; except now, he had his own behavioral health practice working with autistic children. I ended up making a move from North Carolina to Florida under challenging financial circumstances while taking a leap of faith towards what I thought was my purpose in this life.
My situation prior to my out of state move: Going back a bit, when I went back to school, I had lost my job and was living on unemployment until the government cut it off early. I had just graduated college, was living with my parents at the time, I no longer had a financial means, and to top it off, my parents sold their home and were moving back to South Florida. This put me in a bind and left me with no where to go. Everything seemed so rushed as it happened so quickly. Decisions had to be made with not much thought. Naturally, I jumped at the opportunity to pursue behavior analysis as I thought I was meant to do.
Luckily, I had stayed in touch with my old boss who offered me a job at his behavioral health practice working with amazing autistic children in Jacksonville, FL. It could not have come at a better time. Surely, this was my calling; so I continued to think. I was so excited and on a roll! Things were beginning to look up. At least that is how it appeared for a moment until they spiraled out of control.
I was barely getting by and the job was not what I had thought it would be. I was working 10 hours a week (if that) making $12/hour while trying to pay rent, stay positive and feed my body nourishing foods to keep me from getting sick and losing ground all while depleting my savings at the same time. What were all my sacrifices for going back to school for?! I couldn’t help but think…
It was quite the struggle with everything working against me. I was on the verge of depression but somehow, through it all, I never lost hope nor did my faith waver and I managed to beat the odds.
Even when you don’t seem to think so, there is always, always light at the end of the tunnel.
I moved back to Carolina and in with a very dear friend, my best friend, who allowed me to live in her home rent free. She gave my daughter and I a place to live until I was able to get back on my feet again. During this time, I did all I could to stay strong for myself and my daughter but most importantly, I did not give up. I pulled the positives out of the negative and practiced the Power of Positivity day in and day out. I reminded myself that the lord has a greater plan and that it would soon be revealed; not on my time but on his.
With each new day, I continued to hope and trust that my time would come. I just knew that my sacrifices and achievements were not in vein. I trusted and put all my faith in that and just allowed time to take its course. It was all I could do.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is not think, not wonder, not imagine, not obsess. Just breathe, and have faith that everything will work out for the best.
In my pursuit of a new job, another very special and dear friend, who I will forever be grateful for, helped me land an interview for a job working in the healthcare system. I prayed and asked the lord to allow this to be as I was truly in a financial bind. Money was running out and I was down to my last few dollars. My bank account had been completely drained. Regardless, I trusted that the lord would not let me down. I knew that something had to happen as I know that nothing in life ever stays the same. The week that my bank account dwindled down to my last dollar, the lord answered my prayers. After months of waiting, I finally received the call that I had been waiting on and I got the job!!!
Although it wasn’t the highest paying job, it was a job; a steady job. One with 40 hours a week and with benefits. I was beyond grateful.
There are angels all around us and are sent our way when we need them most. They are a Godsend.
You see, what I learned is that this experience among the many others was a blessing in disguise. Sometimes we are placed in circumstances that are meant to teach us lessons; even when we think we know what we are doing or where we are going. These lessons are to redirect us and show us the corrected path. It is up to us to follow it, accept it with no fear and trust that there is a greater plan; one that is by far much greater than ours.
We all have something or someone we believe in… My beliefs are in the great lord above, my greatest friend and my guide. I would not be where I am today if it were not for him.
I thank God every day for two of my greatest blessings, my mom and dad for their ongoing patience and support throughout my journey. I don’t know what I would have done without them.
My “Aha” moment… During the time of contemplation in my life and during my job hunt, I often wondered where my life was headed. I wondered, there has to be more but what is it and how do I find it? Then one day, in a phone conversation with my dad, he says to me, “Why don’t you pursue something along the lines of holistic nutrition & fitness? That has always been your passion and it is all you ever talk about.” The first thing out of my mouth was, “What in the world am I going to do with that?!” Not long after that conversation, I began to think and research the possibilities and potential schools. It suddenly dawned on me, my dad was right. Right there and then I knew… I knew with my whole heart and soul that he was right. I knew that it was something I could not stop thinking about, talking about, exploring or putting into action in one way or another. It was something that I had been about all my life I just did not realize it; until finally I did. Thanks to my dad. He planted the seed and from that point on, that seed continued to grow.
My life had taken a shift.
In honor of this great man and his inspiration:
“When the shift happens, you begin to realize you are not here to push life and make it a struggle all the time you begin to enjoy life…” – Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
“Each of us at some time will experience a quantum moment.” – Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
“Your quantum moment or shift can be caused by a comment, an event in your life, a hardship you suffer or anything at all.” – Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
I am grateful to have experienced my quantum moment.
My passion and my purpose was right there in front of me all along and I didn’t even know it. It took obstacles, challenges, falling, and a good beating to get there but it happened and I did it. Without it all, I would never have known where I was meant to be or what path I was meant to take. I would still be at that crossroads spinning my wheels and encountering numerous others after that.
Sometimes, we meet people along the way in life that help pick us back up and help us to see things we ourselves don’t see, to teach us lessons, and bring us closer to our triumph; our purpose in life. This is God’s way of letting us know that every single person in our lives serves a purpose; whether it be for a reason, a season or a lifetime. In this case, it was my dad who brought me to my triumph and purpose in my life, my “Aha” moment. I am just so grateful to have been able to acknowledge it. I could have easily blown it off and continued down a struggling path.
Has that ever happened to you? Where someone brings something to your attention about what they see from the outside looking in but you quickly blow it off and make nothing of it? I’m sure there are many who can relate.
Today, I stand proud to say that I followed my dreams and I am now living them; even when the going got tough. I always knew that I was put on this earth to make a difference in the world; I just did not know what that would look like. The fact is, I have been making a difference, ever since I came into this world. We all have… It is just finding that niche’, that special gift that allows us to reach the unimaginable and go above and beyond what we already know we can do.
Follow your gut instinct and it will lead you to where you are bound.
My special gift… Making a difference and transforming lives.
It is in putting the mind, body, and spirit in sync through:
- mental and emotional balance
- fitness & nutritional guidance
- spiritual awareness
It is in helping those:
- who struggle with fears and need help breaking through them
- who feel they’re not good enough and need help realizing their self-worth
- who are in search of finding their way and need direction and guidance
- who know what they’re in search of but need help getting there
- who are in the process of getting there but need motivation and inspiration
- who are already there but looking to reach optimal health and optimal athletic performance
I have been blessed with a unique ability to help others and it is with that passion that I am successful in what I do. There is no success too small or too great.
“Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome.” – Booker T. Washington
Where ever you are or whatever it is you are looking for whether it be emotional, nutritional, or spiritual, I am here for you and I am here to help you succeed in reaching your goals and helping you get the results you deserve.
It’s no secret that health and wellness has always been a great part of my life and through the years, has become an even greater part of my life; even more so watching those I love and care about struggle to fight off cancer, lupus, diabetes, drug addictions, obesity, depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, lack of self-worth, lack of self-love, and the list goes on…
I have lost friends and family to illness and disease as I am sure most of you have as well. It breaks my heart to see it all around us and is why I will not stop until I have reached the masses.
Drive + Determination + Belief = Successful Outcomes
Making a difference and transforming lives is what I live for.
Together we can change the world. You just have to believe and know that no matter what the circumstance, there is always light at the end of the tunnel.
Love, light, and peace,
Your Turn: Anyone ever have an “Aha” moment? Share it in the comments below. Would love to hear from you.